Memories fade and dissipate as time washes over us, like the endless waves pounding the sand. There was sanctuary in being able to return to the places of my youth to reconstruct the physical reality of a time of innocence long past. Walking the streets, the sun touching my skin, inhaling the ocean breeze awakens my sleeping mind. I am able to retouch the tiny fragments of life’s experiences, bringing them slightly into better focus. Like a discarded mosaic each small chip of colored glass captures a ray of sunlight illuminating a deep forgotten detail of the past.
It is with a sullen heart I morn these places that have succumb to insufferable neglect and now been wiped clean from the land, taking with them my ability to travel back in time to converse with who I was. It is a loss as painful as an unrequited secret love that was hidden from the world, but faithfully cherished in the heart for decades without compromise. My loss is intensely personal and deeply troubling. The withering of human flesh is accepted as part of an invariable march to death, but never once did I consider the built world as temporal as it now appears. It is inconceivable how a place can go from a vibrant exclusive center of social prominence and activity to a demolished ghetto of vacant lots in less than forty years.
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For six years in junior high and high school I casually dated a catholic girl from Asbury Park, named Gloria. Her father emigrated from Sicily as a young boy. The entire extended family lived in a large turn of the century home on Second Street. Her grandmother spoke only Italian. Gloria’s mother emigrated from Hungary in her early twenties and when upset she would revert to screaming at you in Hungarian. Dinner at the house was a true old world experience which would start on Sunday about 2:00 pm and last to about 6:00 pm which most of the time everyone was yelling at each other.
Gloria’s father was a general practice doctor. Three rooms of the family house on the ground floor were set aside for the doctor’s office. What was unusual was that the doctor’s office divided the family’s living spaces and it was necessary to travel through the waiting room and examination room to get from the living room to the dining room and kitchen. It was not uncommon to sit in the waiting room chatting with the patients until the exam room door would open so you could get to the kitchen.
It remains a sad memory when I lost touch with Gloria in college after a tragic event that destroyed and scattered the family. Gloria’s older sister Rosanne was a chronic drug addict hopelessly addicted to the prescription drugs which were always available in the doctor’s office at home. No matter how well secured or hidden Rosanne would find them. When home no longer contained the needed drugs she took to the streets in the emerging drug culture along the Jersey shore. There were at least six failed interventions and attempted rehabilitations before it came to a sad end. One hot summer night Rosanne came home to steal drugs from the doctor’s office and Gloria’s father tried to stop her. It apparently escalated into a violent confrontation which Rosanne picked up a pair of scissors and on the front porch of the house in front of the neighbors and family members stabbed her father to death.
Shortly after without an income the family lost the house and Gloria moved her destitute mother near her while she was going to college at Seaton Hall studying to be a nurse. Gloria’s mother never recovered from the trauma and past away before Gloria graduated college. Rosanne was declared insane and has been institutionalized since that day. The house is a sad reminder of lost innocence.
I spent most of my time in Asbury Park during these years. Before any of my friends could drive I would take the bus after school from Red Bank to Asbury Park five nights a week. The last bus back to Red Bank was at 10:45 pm and if we missed it we would sleep on the beach taking the early morning bus back just in time to go to school. During this period Asbury Park was slightly past its zenith and was in transition.
Founded in 1887, Asbury Park was once one of the Northeast's most popular seaside resorts. In the early 1900s, people who now vacation in the Hamptons would've had their summer homes in Asbury Park. In the early to mid 1900s, Asbury Park was resilient, rebuilding entire sections of the beachfront after surviving devastating fires and hurricanes.
David B. Sokol a writer for Metropolis recalled the significance of the city’s vision in his article “Preserving Asbury Park's Progressive History”.
Now close your eyes and imagine Asbury Park without this decrepitude and you can see that Bruce Springsteen's adopted hometown is also home to great urban design. This dates back to 1873 and James Bradley's plan for the place that blended urban, suburban, and resort types in a way that fostered comfortably traditional and uniquely progressive design.
The city streets tell this story. Avenues, lined with residences and hotels, flare outward near the beach in order to capture ocean breezes and to more widely distribute them. In the downtown area south of the central Asbury Avenue, the pavement assumes a different personality. The triangulated street grid signals your placement in this high-density commercial district.
Asbury Park's waterfront offered another variation on scale. The palaces and the hotels increased residential density by the water, exactly where people wanted to be. Today's voids were once crowded with the theater of the street. And the waterfront served as a blank canvas for the exuberant Victorian and Populuxe architecture of the shoreline landmarks."
Between 1871 to the time of his death in 1921, James Bradley was deeply involved in every aspect of the development of Asbury Park. He planned the layout of the area before the first structure was built. He set aside park lands and waterfront areas. The urban scale blocks, remarkable in the 100-foot width of the avenues, flaring to 200 feet at the ocean, to this day provide a feeling of spaciousness often lacking in seaside resorts.
Bradley took full advantage of the natural assets surrounding and contained within the 500 acre tract of land he purchased. The land surrounding the three lakes within city limits were designed as public areas. He planned a plank walk along the ocean for strolling and restful enjoyment of the shore area. Bradley wanted a special character for Asbury Park and donated land to religious and civic groups, offering only large residential lots. Most of the churches front 100-foot-wide Grand Avenue and are surrounded by large Victorian-style "summer" homes.
Asbury Park, in 1881, was the first seaside resort on the American continent to adopt a perfect sanitary sewer system. Water was supplied to the city from the very beginning from artesian wells. In 1885, a trolley system was constructed that circulated from the train station through the shopping district and beachfront and then through the residential areas. Asbury Park's trolley system was the second electric system in the United States; previous trolleys were horse drawn. Asbury Park was the first community of the Monmouth County coast to use the electric light service starting June 20, 1885. The first "Baby Parade" was held in 1890 and became a yearly event. In less than 25 years Asbury Park had become renowned throughout the country for its grandeur.
In “A Brief History of Asbury Park”, Florence Moss describes the resilience of Asbury Park during its rejuvenation from disasters.
“On April 5, 1917, Asbury Park experienced its greatest fire. Four blocks of hotels, boarding houses and residences, part of the Boardwalk, and the First Methodist Episcopal church, a total of over 50 buildings, were destroyed.
Asbury Park recovered from the fire and severe devastation caused by a winter storm in 1923 with a building boom. Among the buildings built during this rejuvenation were the Santander, long known as a posh summer apartment house, the Berkeley-Carteret, Convention Hall and the Casino. The Casino and Convention Hall were designed by the architects Warren and Wetmore, who designed New York's Grand Central Station. Convention Hall, a unique structure, also included on the State and National Register, would fit comfortably on St. Mark's Square in Venice.”
By the 1930s, the city had become "the" place to be on the Jersey Shore. There was a swan boat and paddle boats on Wesley Lake, pony rides and miniature golf on Ocean Avenue. A foot bridge crossed Ocean Avenue near the Berkeley-Carteret, providing easy access to the many pavilions, several of which provided both fresh- and salt-water swimming pools. During the evenings, noted "Big Bands" played at the various pavilions for dancing.
Beginning in the 1960’s, as suburbanization and automobiles flourished, Asbury Park floundered as a vacation destination. Newly mobile visitors became daytrippers rather than long-term guests, and the hotels floundered in their wake. Race riots in 1970 were the defining event for the abandonment of a rich legacy on the shore.
Most of my personal experiences with Asbury Park were between the mid 1960’s to the late 1970’s as an adolescent teen. It was magical time of discovery and exploration while growing into manhood. While still vibrant Asbury Park’s transition from grandeur to a counterculture stronghold added to the diversity of cultural experience for a young man to immerse himself. The mix of old grand hotel resort culture contrasting with the new emerging gay, multi-racial, hippy drug culture under the bright amusements lights on the ocean was absolutely irresistible. The world was a much different place. Remember summer of love and Woodstock occurred during this period of exploration of values and sexual expression.
We were kings of the world. We were invincible and fearless looking for adventure under the summer moon. We were blessed with all the gifts of youth. My sun bleached brown hair cascaded past my shoulders. Our perfectly sculptured bodies and lean frames hardened by physical labor were covered by soft supple skin bronzed by the sun. Life on the shore was electric and palpable as you felt the energy leap from your skin in sparks. Our desire was inexhaustible as we strolled in our kingdom. Never have I felt in more control of the world.
The days were filled by swimming in the ocean and lying under the sun. The scent of sun tan lotion mixed with the creosote of the boardwalk and the ocean breeze. A constant hum of children laughing while running with the waves and the screaming of people on the roller coaster filled the air. Then we got bored, we would walk to the arcades and play pin ball or skeeball while smoking menthol cigarettes in the shade. My lunch of choice was a greasy softshell crab sandwich, fries and a coke followed by a handful of salt water taffy. You could watch the taffy being made in the front window of the candy store. Two big stainless steel forks wrapping and stretching the taffy as someone added the favoring.
Each night would bring hundreds of adolescent girls to the boardwalk as eager for adventure as us. Tan perfect bodies in shorts and halter tops with attitude yearning to explore life under the sun and the sand. Courtship was brief for the night was short. For a few hours we would ride the amusements, play miniature golf or go to the palace to ride in the tunnel of love then grab a slice of Neapolitan pizza with anchovies. My favorite ride was a wire cage about the size of an elevator cab. You could fit one to four people in it as they closed the door. The cage was like a swing where you used your body weight to move the cage back and forth to swing higher and higher. After a working at it, the cage would complete a full 360 swing lifting you high above the boardwalk where you got a board view of the shore. It was a ride that required physical endurance. You would be exhausted and drenched in sweat after a few attempts.
We could always follow the crowds to the Casino to let the girls ride the grand carousel. The carousel house would shimmer and sparkle in the summer night as the brightly colored horses whirled in circles. We would watch hypnotized by long flowing hair of the girls as they would capture your heart with the wide smiles and inviting glances. From around the corner you could smell grilled onions and popcorn. Sadly the carousel which was the largest in the world for a time was dismantled and each of the exquisitely carved horses was carted away to suburban bedrooms in station wagons after an auction.